I've died at least 2 times in my life.

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Want to know how?

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Hey You!

This is my story, there are a lot of sides to it, but this is my version.

In the past, I was fat, unconfident, friendless and heck -that's why I had my first girlfriend only at age 19. 

 

But something among the way changed the way I look at the world and I wanted to share it with you.

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I think you will benifit a lot from my story, I hope it will inspire you to a make a change that maybe you wanted to make, or just learn from my mistakes.

Either way, I think you will enjoy it and get a great value out of it.

As Richard Dawknis wrote in his book The Selfish Gene - "Simulations is faster than trial and error. Learn from others mistakes, and you will not have to learn from yours, its much faster and more safe."

So if you are ready, lets go into this journey toghether.

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Lets start from my childhood :

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In the past things were not looking good,  school or studing didn't intrested me, but there was one thing I was thrilled about -basketball. I loved it, it gave a meaning to my life, till this day actually. I remember when I was a little kid and I was pissed off by the world, my family and friends.

I would go out and shoot till my arms hurt. That was a lesson for me: channel your anger to a better place -I also use it till this day. It felt like it was a getaway for me, a sacred place -the bastkeball court.
 

I was fat.

My friends were moaking me. I would always get into troubles and fights because I wanted to "defend" my pride.

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I have a memory of one parcticular day, there were kids waiting  for me after school to beat me up.
I was so scared that I even asked a teacher to walk out with me so could hide behind her. I was frightened, It felt like a nightmare.

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Then it came, my first death as I call it. I was 15, hanging out with some friends at a local festival, it was all good utill one of them started to curse me,  I didn't know what to do so I cursed him back, then he spat on me and we began fighting. After a while I thought it was over, but apperenatly it was't. Suddenly I felt pain at my back, he hit me with wood block. At that point I was so terrified to hit him back, so I ran to my house. And he threw a carrot on my neck, I turned back, looked
around but I saw nothing- In my heart I knew it was him. How do I feel about it?

It was the worst feeling a human could possibly feel in my opinion.

Paralyzing fear, total helplessness.

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Then I went home, started crying till I fell a sleep, woke up, crying, dont know what to do.
I kept asking myself, what do I do now? what now? That was it.

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After that I started to disconnect with all my friends, because I was afraid that he might be with them.
 

One day, I came back home from school, sick of being fat and being laughed of, so Ive made a choice, a life changing choise, I decided, that from this day on, I wasnt going to eat any sweets or candy's and that I am starting to eat healthier, I was about 16 at the time, ofcaurse I didnt know what Iam doing that much, but I was determand to get a result.

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I was still afraid at the time to go out from my hause.
At the time I was looking for a new school, because Ive heard that the same guy was
mooving to my school the next year I was petrified. And then, I found one, it was pretty far away in Israel terms, but I would do anything but facing my fears.

I felt like things were geting a little better, I had started to work out with a friend at his base,
it was them when I discovered my love for the human body, I was curious about muscles, about strength, I wanted to look muscular and strong.

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At the time I wanted the new people at my school see my change, It felt like I need their approval.

 

Being at a new school was refreshing, a new start, no one knew me, and I started to create a new reputation, I started actually to feel like a semi cool guy, I was still afraid ofcaurse, but it was a start.
I started to learn theater at the school, and it started to give me confidance.

I found out that I was actually pretty skilled on stage so I did every single show on the school, anything that would have to do with standting on the stage I did, I loved it I loved being on stage, being the cool guy, the popular, that feeling of being enough, accepted.

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Meanwhile my grades where better, still not great, but better.

Then, at the age of 17, Ive made another decision, Iam going to commit on being the best basketball player that I could be.

In school breakes, I would go to the court, sometimes 3 times a day, I would shoot, practice moves, visiolazing my self hitting a game winner at the buzzer, just like Kobe or MJ.

And I thought that maybe, someday, I would go to the NBA.

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Then I thought, if I can get better at basketball, I can get better in learning.

I had to balance school with everything, I was pissed of of my grades and Ive made another choise, I am going to become better at learning. On the ride to school I was reading books, on breaks, I would do homework, after that, I would go to practice or shoot, or workout, going out to run.

Ive started to get a sense of what true dedication means.

I started to get better, get smarter, day by day.

And after the end of the year I had one of the best grades in the whole school.

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Then, I thought, if I can be better in learning, I get be healthier if I dedicate to it.

I loved it. It felt like a true change.

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Then, I needed a new challenge
At the age 18 year 2013, I joined a local gym and I discovered a sport called powerlifting.

I didnt really knew what I was doing, I was making a lot of mistakes.

I started to feel like I've found my niche, but I still felt like I was missing something, something spiritual, something bigger.

Then, I found meditation it was a magical thing, just by sitting and breathing Ive felt a lot better, be calmer, more focused and more interesting.

I said to myself that Iam commiting to do meditaion everyday for the rest of my life.

that desicision is still lasting by the way.

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My body transformations throwout the years : 2009-2016

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I always wanted a strong abs, visible abs, it was always my dream,

I thought it would help me to get girls. But I still was'nt feeling good enough.

I didn't understood that to get girl, you must take action.

I was still afraid to go out the house.

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After that fase, I needed something new, antoher challenge, something was missing.

The army was an answear.

By law, I needed to joing the army.

Didnt knew much about it, I still wanted to train, I didnt want to serve that much, but

I was afraid to mess with to law so I thought oh well lets give it a shot.

My military service was not a thing of beauty, I didn't understood the military

I was always with conflicts with other soldiers, never got along with the army.

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But the one thing that the army really helped me, was the fact that it helped me understand that I can get over my fear, my fear of going out, not sleeping at home, because I had to, but now I understood that it's possible.

Then, I needed another challenge, I needed to get better with girls.

I had enough, I was so sick of being at home, afraid, paralyzed, that Ive said to myself :"Thats it ofek, you had suffered enough"! ​

Meanwhile, I started to go out a little bit, nothing to crazy, but I was starting to get over that fear a little bit.

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Then, I discovered a commuinity called "PICKUP", I saw some crazy videos

about guys who are going out, meeting girls, going home with them

and have sex, I was like "man I wish I could to that".

Talking to girls was always hard to me, actually, after the age of 15

I didnt kiss girl, didnt had sex, or had a girlfriend till the age on 19.

So I was 18 at time, looking for answers, I thought that if

I would aprroach pick up the same mentality that I had approach training, nutrition and school, I would be fine.

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First time is always the hardest, but, as Joel Salatin says :"when you dont know what to do and you need to do something difficult, just jump into it. the next thing you know you are half way throw it".

The first time a "picked up" a girl, oh my goodness, I was probably the hardest

thing I had ever done in my life, so much barriers to cross, so much fear to overcome, but I did it, and after that,  It felt amaizing, If you know that feeling that the bridge was open, that was pretty much it, nothing seems impossible at this point.

I started to go nuts with it, talking with every single girl that I could find,

on the pub, on the army, on the bus, on the street, everywhere.

And step by step, I started to get more results, phone numbers,

kissing, touching, facebooks, and started to feel better about myself.

I did all of that, while still being paranoid about that guy, which was crazy because if you are afraid to go out from the house, ho can PickUp girls?

I wasnt really happy at the time but I started to get a glimpse of happiness.

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And then, my second death was comming :

I've met a girl threw a friend, she was very intersting,

I asked her for her number, and then we set up a date in that same day.

We had met on the beach, and I found that we had a really good chemisrtry,

so we kept on talking.

Meanwhile I had to go for the army jail for something wrong that I did,

and we kept on talking throw the jail, she even came to visit me there!

And I started to fall in love with her.

After I came out of the Jail, after 19 days, at the same day, we went to the beach again,

to the same place, and we had agreed to be boyfriend and girlfriend.

I was like WOW, my first girlfriend, where do I go now?

We had an agreement that I will still do pickup and she will be fine with that.

We were very like minded, she was intreeged about my word

and I was from hers.

But I had felt that in order to keep her, I have to get over my fear from that guy, I didnt really knew what to do, I had some ideas but I knew that I should end it, as fast as possible.

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Then, one day, as I came back from the army,

I saw him! that guy! the guy that was haunting me in my dreams, the guy that made me so afraid that I would have nightmers about him.

And Ive said to myself, ENOUGH, LETS DEAL WITH MY FEAR,

So I went over him, and I said this : "Hey man(shook his hand) we need to talk"

He was like : "sure man whats up?"

He didn't really undersood whats happened.

The year was 2015, he probably didnt remember me that much.

Ive said : "Look, remember when you threw the carrot at me?

He was like :"Yeah" 

Ive said :"that is still bothering me, look, either you will apologize for it or..."

I wasnt even finishing my sentence and he shook my hand as we are going up to the same bus toghether and said :"I'm sorry about everything"

Oh my god, thats it? Ive asked myself, that is what Ive needed to do all that time, all the pain, all the sufer?

So easy, yet I didnt had the balls to do it for so long.

Only when you learn that you can do so much, and you can get over your fears,

then you have courge to take action.

So I went home, I called my girlfriend and told her about my feeling, I felt phenomenal.

I was afraid to really talk about this with anyone, only 2 people in the word knew about that

my therepist, which I owe her so much, she helped me through my journey, and almost for free,

she is amaizing, and some friend I was in contact with her.

After Ive told her, felt so much better, it felt like that the fear is almost gone.

It was amaizing.

That was my second death, a true subline moment.

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After that, everything started to come along.

Ive started to get in to a better shape, results where more clear

and I started to improve in powerlifting, day by day.

My girlfriend startted to read books, do meditations with me,

and getting close to her goals.

I was affecting peoples life, Ive started to make videos about my change, and my process on youtube, and Ive got feedback from people that they were inspired and asked me questions.

But nothing perpared me to this.

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One day, my girlfriend gave me a book, she said it was sitting or her house

and she didnt really liked it.

So ive said what the heck, lets try it.

The book is called :"THE POWER OF NOW"

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The army was still an issue tho.

Ive got into the jail several other time for troubles.

After Ive got out, I invited my girlfriend to try the book again.

So she tried, and fell in love with that.

Now we have 2 human beings, in a search for their goals,

and on the search of meaning, truth.

What I can say to you that, if you are reading this now,

you can make a change, you dont have to go the hard route,

you can live the good life, it doesnt matter what age you are,

what gender, country on anything.

ALL IT TAKES IS A DESCISION, A DESCISION TO GET BETTER, A CHOICE TO CHANGE.

This website is about all of the lessons ive learned, plus good information and motivating stuff.

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR TIME, till next time.

Ofek out.

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